Forgive and Live

The 2010 session is closed.
Tuesdays, 7-9 p.m. | April 13th through July 6th
(Forgive & Live is for women only)
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What is Forgive & Live?

Forgive and Live is specifically designed for wives, ex-wives and fiancées of men who struggle with sexual addictions, homosexuality and/or affairs. Special attention will be given to the concerns of these women in regard to forgiveness issues. It is a 13-week Bible study designed to be done in a group setting with each group member committed to doing homework daily. During the week, each participant is led through a Bible study workbook. Group meetings focus on discussion and prayer. Through this process, the group will learn the difference between what the world calls forgiveness and what the Bible calls forgiveness. An introductory meeting is included to cover confidentiality, group covenant, etc. After that, the group will become closed to others.

Hope's Forgive & Live group began Tuesday, April 13th, 2010 and is now closed. The group meets at the Mosaic Campus in Newport News in Cornerstone classroom 302. An application process is required. The cost of Forgive & Live is $50.00. $20 is due with the application and the remaining $30 may be paid monthly

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A Glimpse at the Material

An overview of each chapter is as follows:
Chapter 1 - What happens when we don't forgive?
This chapter highlights the root issues and consequences of unforgiveness.

Chapter 2 - Restoration
This chapter defines repentance and gives a biblical picture of restoration in the life of Joseph.

Chapter 3 - Boundaries
This chapter covers the biblical concept of boundaries and involves a study of David and Saul.

Chapter 4 - Anger
The first step in the forgiveness process is introduced in this chapter, as well as an in-depth study on anger, the root causes and practical steps to freedom from anger.

Chapter 5 - Forgiving God - Things We Blame God For
Forgiving God has become popular counsel but is not biblical. However, negative feelings towards God is an issue for many people. This chapter expounds on anger toward God and the solution to that anger.

Chapter 6 - Forgiving Ourselves
Another popular but not biblical counsel is forgiving ourselves. Many people are plagued with guilty feelings even though they have asked for God's forgiveness numerous times. This chapter explains the root issues of guilt, the difference between guilt and conviction and how to live a guilt-free life.

Chapter 7 - Seeking God's Forgiveness
The second step in the forgiveness process is to take responsibility for our own actions and wrong-doing. This chapter helps to reveal our part in the interaction with our offender or our wrong reaction to the offense.

Chapter 8 - Becoming Other-Centered
The third step of forgiveness is found in leaving behind the introspection and turning the focus to others around us. This chapter highlights the need to remember that we are on the same level as our offender.

Chapter 9 - Forsaking Revenge
Revenge towards our offender can come in many forms, from blatant to seemingly very innocent. This chapter exposes the fourth step of forsaking revenge and explains righteous anger.

Chapter 10 - Desiring God's Best
This chapter covers the fifth step in the process of beginning to desire God's best for our offender, which is a right relationship with God first and then a right relationship with other humans.

Chapter 11 - Confronting the Believer
This chapter investigates the motive for confrontation and gives a checklist to evaluate where one is in the forgiveness process. It also includes practical suggestions for confronting believers.

Chapter 12 - Confronting the Unbeliever
This chapter differentiates between confronting believers and unbelievers. Included are sections on justice and when to take others to court.

Testimonies

from the author's website: www.forgiveandlive.com

"I think differently.  I no longer allow myself to think like a victim."  Allison P.

 "I knew I could not find freedom and healing without forgiveness, much less find restoration with my husband but I didn't know how to walk through it.  Now I do."  Participant

"Through Forgive and Live I learned how to distinguish between real hurt and selfishness or unrealistic expectations."  Donna T.

"The most important thing I learned is God's perspective on forgiveness, how He treats us and how we should treat ourselves and others.  I feel like I am finally able to close chapters in my life and focus on what is going on right now."  David M.

"This study has opened my eyes to the hurts and wounds of my offenders.  This has helped me to forgive them because I can see that it is not them but their hurts that caused them to lash out at me."  Jillian G.

"Before Forgive and Live, forgiveness was just a word, something I said so it would be said to me in kind.  Now I see the process God used to forgive me and how pointless it is for me NOT to forgive "...those who have trespassed against me."  Eric P.

"Forgive and Live is rich, biblical, and put together in an easy to follow format."  Kathy S.

" I learned so much that I used in all my relationships.  Everyone should take this course!"  Participant

"Forgive and Live forced me to focus on me and what is in my heart."  Susan B.

"I have had many times in my life that I have acted incorrectly with my anger.  Forgive and Live taught me to think the feelings of my anger out before acting on my feelings." Participant

"All of the material is very practical and provides a map to daily living and making forgiveness a lifestyle."  Gloria R.

"Forgive and Live came at a time when I needed it most.  It helped that it's God's Word and God's teaching, not just Beth Hunter's idea of what forgiveness is and how to go about it."  Meredith R.

"I understand the process of forgiveness better now. I am more hopeful and can see the light at the end of the tunnel."  Participant

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